Domestic
violence and battering are behaviors and tactics used by one
person to control another’s actions and feelings. The
Power & Control
Wheel describes some of those tactics.
Am
I Being Abused?
Ask
yourself these questions. If you answer yes to any of them,
it is likely that you are in an abusive situation:
- Do
you often feel like you're walking on eggshells to avoid
upsetting your partner?
- Do
you feel like a prisoner in your own home, unable to come
and go as you please?
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Does your partner follow you, or show up at your work, school
or friends' homes?
- Does
your partner put you down or call you names?
- Does
your partner threaten or intimidate you, physically or verbally?
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Does your partner ever force you to have sex when you don't
want to?
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Does your partner refuse to practice safe sex, putting you
at risk of contracting STDs?
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Does your partner get jealous when you spend time with family
or friends?
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Does your partner often accuse you of sleeping around?
- Does
your partner monitor your actions and force you to account
for your time?
- Is
your partner violent with your children or your pets?
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Does your partner threaten to take your kids or call DHS
on you?
- Does
your partner act like two different people (i.e., Dr. Jekyll
and Mr. Hyde)?
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Does your partner insult your racial, ethnic, cultural,
religious, or class background?
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Does your partner humiliate you through actions or words
privately or in front of others?
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Does your partner threaten to reveal your sexual identity
to your family, work, or faith community?
- Does
your partner ever slap, shove, grab, hit, kick, punch or
restrain you against your will?
- Does
your partner ever say, "I can't live without you"
or "I'd kill myself if you ever left me"?
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Does your partner minimize or deny things that s/he has
done to you?
» If
you are being abused, you are not alone.
The violence and abuse is not your
fault. Abuse occurs in all communities, to people of all ethnic/racial,
faith, political, socio-economic identities, to people of
all levels of ability, all ages and sexual orientations and
occupations.
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Being
abused by someone you love is frightening and degrading.
We believe you have a right to peace and dignity
in your home. There is help available.
A Spruce
Run
Worker is available 24 hours a day.
All services are free and confidential
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