Safety Plan for Teens

The following steps include a sample plan for increasing your safety and preparing in advance for the possibility of further violence. Although, as a victim, you do not have control over your partner’s violence, you do have a choice about how to respond to him or her and how to get yourself to safety.

Safety During An Argument

  • If you’re on a date and you feel unsafe, how could you call to get a safe ride home? What would you do if left in an isolated area?
  • If you’re at school and you feel unsafe, who could help you? Where could you be safe? What teacher or counselor do you trust?
  • If you are having an argument, try to ensure you are in a room with access to a door. Try and avoid the bathroom, garage, kitchen, or anywhere near weapons.
  • Choose a code word or phrase and share it with trusted family and friends. Be sure they know this word to know when they should call for help.

Safety In My Home

  • If your partner comes over and you’re alone and feeling unsafe, who can you call to come over? Who can you call if you need help?
  • Note the location of exits in your house and locations of nearby phones in case you need to call the police.
  • If your partner harasses you on the phone:
    • Think about screening your calls with voicemail or an answering machine.
    • Have your phone number changed.
    • Ask your telephone company or wireless carrier to trace the call for a stalking report.
  • If your partner/former partner is outside your home:
    • Do not engage with them.
    • Call a friend or family member, or the police.
    • Take photos only if you are able to without being seen.
    • Document how many times it happens to file a stalking report.